So I recently read somewhere (I partly do not remember the site identity, and partly don’t want to disclose where I read it) that Since You’ve Been Gone by Morgan Matson basically preaches that introverts can’t have fun unless they go outside and become active.
Now, let me first clarify where I stand about the novel. I read Since You’ve Been Gone last year, and had that time already been familiar with the author’s works. I fell in love with the novel and it became one of my favorite books. You can even find my review here. However, I won’t let this fact affect the issue in hand, because I just found a new way to analyze this book.
In a gist, the novel is about an introvert whose best (and only) friend disappears, and leaves behind a list of fun, crazy, typically outgoing things to do. As the girl sets forth to do these things, she makes new friends and finds happiness in doing the various things, and basically – finds herself.
Now what I read in a particular post was that how the book sent forth the message that an introvert cannot be happy alone until she goes outside and does outgoing, extrovert things. I do not remember the exact words though it was pretty much along these lines.
Well, when I first read it, it made me think : what if it’s right? The main lead is an introvert, she has one friend, she does go out and make new friends, and she does find happiness doing all those fun things.
And later, upon thinking, I realized that this line of reasoning is wrong. Because, I fail to see how the book preaches about an introvert changing into an outgoing person, instead of an introvert discovering that she likes other things better.
That is the whole point of the book. Self-discovery. The main lead discovering that there are other fun things out there, instead of changing herself to become something else. Maybe it’s just my perception of the book, and I totally agree that different people can have different perceptions. It’s just that for me, I feel that the book was about discovering something new instead of changing to something new. A fine line of difference, but it exists.
And I especially reacted to this because I myself am an introvert but that does not mean I never enjoy fun things once in a while. And just because I enjoy fun things sometimes, does not change me and make me an extrovert all of a sudden.
So that was it. A tiny little piece of discussion which suddenly hit my mind.
P.S. I just love this thing where we as blog readers read something online and that influenes us to make a discussion post ourselves :P It’s a fun way to form and present our opinions.
Thanks for reading!